In the quest to discover the real you or to re-discover the real you (!), it’s useful to pay attention to your assets. I’m not necessarily talking about financial assets, although, they are definitely on the ‘high priority’ list of discussibles. I am talking about all those really important parts of your life where you can experience success. Actually, to get right down to it, you may need to do a stock-take of everything that you’ve got so that you can start to appreciate or realise again how successful you have already been in your life. And we will get to that, I promise!
In the meantime, if you can recognise your achievements to date in six key areas, then you will be able to see and state ‘I have good evidence of success behind me’ and this will lead to ‘so much more that I want to do in the future’. One way to do this quickly is to rate yourself against some broad concepts or categories. Here are six life categories to consider; 1 Physical wellbeing; 2 Powerful mind; 3 Intelligence; 4 Relationships; 5 Societal contribution; and 6 Financial satisfaction.
Have a go of rating yourself out of 10, where 10 is excellent (the best result you can imagine) and 0 is the worst rating you could imagine (which might possibly mean you are close to death, you’ve lived in a cave alone for the last 10 years or you may have been declared a bankrupt, several times). You don’t have to share these results with anyone, so it should be a ‘low risk’ activity for you, but, if you are feeling uncomfortable about this, then I’d encourage you to push through your discomfort and give it a go anyway. It just means that you are stepping into a ‘learning’ space which is always uncomfortable. I should know, I’ve been uncomfortable for most of my life.
So are you ready?
Out of 10 then, how successful are you in terms of…
Your Physical Wellbeing (think diet, liquid diet, fitness, general wellness) _____
Your Powerful Mind (think happiness, conviction, emotional control) _____
Your Intelligence (think about the various ways you are intelligent, not just IQ) _____
Your Relationships (think long-term, new, healthy, equal) _____
Your Societal Contribution (think volunteering, engagement and connections) _____
Your Financial Satisfaction (think short-term & long-term security and life-style) _____
How did your numbers land?
Have you been really tough on yourself or have you erred on the side of ‘optimism’?! If you have very low numbers on one or a couple of areas and the rest are quite high (8-10), then what do you think that means? Are you pushing yourself so hard on some areas and missing out on others because there’s no time or energy left? If you have fairly average results for most areas (5-7), then are you living inside your comfort zone and feeling a bit ‘oh well…life’s OK, really, I think?! Are most of your numbers low to average? Is it time for a whole new way of looking at yourself?
Perhaps none of the above is true! Your ‘numbers’ may not be accurate at all. Your ratings can be skewed based on how well you know yourself, how willing you are to be honest, how much time or consideration you gave to this activity and how you interpreted the short definitions of those key areas above.
Can I make a suggestion? Over the next week, take some time to consider this more fully. What does it mean when someone says ‘wellbeing’? How much financial income or security would I need to be totally satisfied? What does a ‘good’ relationship look like in my estimation? And while you are doing that, I’ll prepare some detailed questions to help you in that process and send those out so that you can more accurately define how well you are doing in these areas and you can decide what you might need to focus on as you move ahead with your ideal life.
So just to recap, don’t forget to give this some thought this week and I will too.
Perhaps you’ll write out those six categories and stick them up on your fridge or on the bathroom mirror as a reminder? Do then take some time to define those key concepts more specifically and let’s compare notes real soon!